Communication Problem
Tips On Avoiding A Communication Problem
A communication problem can easily occur at work, in your love life, among your family and especially with your children. At work, a lot of wasted time, repeated work and ultimately lost revenue is often due to this. In corporate businesses, large projects can depend primarily on strong communication to have a successful outcome.
A communication problem can only be solved when the quality in which you speak and that you listen is evaluated and raised. This does not however, mean that you need to speak more, email or text more because good communication has absolutely nothing to do with the quantity, only the quality. Speaking face to face without outside interruptions and distractions is the easiest way to avoid having a communication problem.
In a relationship, you always hope that the other person is really listening and understanding what you're saying but without good solid communication then your relationship ultimately won't stand a chance, no matter how much love there is. The most common communication problem occurs when all you care about is being right and having the ability to prove the other person wrong. In this case, you are not communicating properly because your goal isn't ultimately to be understood, it is simply to be right. If you make a vow to not blame the other person in the argument but rather to allow each other your full attention to be heard rationally you will see a large improvement. Listening plays the most crucial part in this because even if the other person is explaining their side perfectly, if you're not truly listening to what they're saying and trying to understand then it will get both of you nowhere. Most people, especially when they are upset either have selective hearing or interpret what they hear to mean something else. This is a huge cause of having a communication problem. You also have to be “willing” to understand the other person. Don't sit there pretending to listen while you're secretly planning your rebuttal or going over your shopping list in your head.
Speaking face to face with the other person cuts down the chance of having a communication problem tremendously. If you are telling an employee something over the phone, you can't see if they're actually checking their email at the same time, eating their lunch or anything else that may cause them to lose some of the valuable information you're supplying. This also holds true in relationships. If you call your husband and tell him that he needs to pick your daughter up from school but he's busy watching the last few minutes of the football game, then selective hearing could tell him that you are going to pick up your daughter, meanwhile, your daughter is stuck at school, waiting for anyone to just come and get her. The same if true for men. You could call your wife and tell her that your mother is coming for dinner and in between the children crying, dog barking and the mailman ringing the doorbell, she hears that you are going to your mom's for dinner so she thankfully decides to relax in a warm bath and then no one is getting anything to eat tonight. These are very small, generic, minor examples but it just shows how everyday distractions can easily affect how you hear things. Speaking face to face eliminates this problem from ever happening.
When couples, families or co-workers have some form of communication problem, then the chance of failure is always there. All parties involved need to take the time to speak rationally and listen with willingness. If everyone agrees to do this you may avoid ever having a communication problem again.